Making friends as a grown up isn’t as easy as it was when we were younger and good friendships really are hard to find. But trying to reconnect with an old buddy can be tough, especially if you haven’t talked in a while because you had a big falling out. So if you’re ready to reach out, here are some tips for getting started.
- Take a leap of faith and make that first move to reconnect - Just reach out and send that text or email. Take the first step, even though it’s scary, and chances are that person has thought of you over the years and will be happy to hear from you.
- Ask to meet up in person - If you’re serious about clearing the air and reconnecting, do it in person. Emails, messages, and texts can be misinterpreted or taken out of context, so meet face to face to talk.
- Address the issue early on in the conversation - You both know why you’re there, so get it out in the open at the beginning.
- Own up to your faults - It’s so easy to blame the other person, but no one is totally faultless, so if you sincerely want to reconnect and repair your friendship, acknowledge your mistakes. Don’t be defensive or make excuses or you could end up in another fight.
- Decide what you both want moving forward - Do you want to stay in touch and rebuild your friendship? Or is the meeting just to get closure? Talk about what you both want so one person isn’t trying to give the friendship another try while the other isn’t on board.
- Be patient and keep your expectations in check - You can’t snap your fingers and make things the way they were before, so be patient. Take it slow, let it happen naturally and see where it goes.
Source: Hello Giggles